“You are never going to get a second chance to make a first impression”

 

“My personality is this, my personality is that”, No sweetie, we can’t see that. All we can see from this side of the room is your chipped nails, Garri edges and mismatched accessories.

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I used to literally be the most carefree dresser. I would wear Ill-fitting jeans and a really large T-shirt buttoned up to just show the camisole I was wearing under. I have really long brown hair but I didn’t take care of it. I would just pack it anyhow and put on a face cap and be feeling cool. Oh and I must wear slides with my toe nails looking like “tufiakwa” and I would still be feeling super dressed. The only thing that was differentiating me from looking like an SS2 boy was my Igbo body, ridden with curves; that no matter the layers of clothing could not be suppressed.

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The funniest thing was that I would complain about the audacity street urchins had to walk up to me, let alone open their mouths and speak to me and even think it’s okay to reach for the stars (ask for my number). Ah ah Tunde, stop saying I’m a snob (I might be). I can only go up in the graph of my life. Entertaining street urchins is literally beneath me in comparison to how far I’ve gone in the dating ladder.

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One day, as I stood in front of the mirror, giving myself one last look before stepping out in my hideous outfit, it dawned on me what the issue was; LACK OF CONFIDENCE AND BODY POSITIVITY. I hated showing my arms, chest, legs and all for the silliest of reasons. I am in no way preaching nudity. Nudity is not equal to body positivity, but at the same time you can’t be looking like a minibus when you’re really a Bentley.


Kill two birds with one stone; you look blazing hot for yourself and at the same time you attract the best. Here are some things to do:

1.Pick your style:
Are you conservative or provocative (keep it classy)? Are you a girly girl or leaning towards being a tom boy? Are you alte? Whatever it is Jane, you can pull it off. No style is greater than the other.

2.Express yourself:
Try hard to not be a boring dresser. Put some thought and soul into your outfits. Experiment (with caution of course), I didn’t tell you to do“avant-garde”. Accessorize, pay attention to details. Rings, necklaces, scarves and sunglasses could just be the extra boost your outfit needs. Even if you’re going to wear regular sweatpants and a tee;

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*Let this be their reaction when they see you*

3.Read about colour palettes:
If you’re like me and pairing colours gives you a little bit of anxiety, don’t worry. Google colour palettes and simply learn colours that go well together. We don’t want you to look like something out of a horror movie. If you’re weary of doing ‘dy/dx’ every time you want to pick out an outfit, just wear neutrals (white,black,grey, brown etc.). 

4. Don’t smell like Fufu:

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You put together the best outfit, he notices you from across the room and comes over and BOOM, you reek of fufu and onions. A round of applause for you because you succeeded in scattering everything. If you aren’t going to take the high road and smell like flowers and sunrise, the least you can do is use a good deodorant.

5.Smile:
I have early memories of my mum constantly telling me to smile. I always walk around like I own the place (which is good, worship me abeg) or someone said I look like I’m ready to throw punches. I’m working on that because I actually don’t want to unconsciously scare someone away. My advice is even if you want to give the stern-I-am-Queen look, don’t forget to insert a smile from time to time (in the company of people of course, smiling from time to time alone on the road is creepy). A smile adds a sprinkle of sunlight to your outfit.

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Now, go and flourish.

Love & light.

Leave a comment, what’s your style?

 

I’m so thankful for all the love I have been getting, feels surreal.

Don’t forget to share with your friends. Send an email to [email protected] let’s be besties. Eku quarantine.

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*i added links to the meaning of words you might not understand, they’re highlighted*



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My name is Esther, Queen Esther. I am a Nigerian psychologist navigating blindly through this tornado called life. The words best used to describe me are witty, pretty, chubby and bubbly. Welcome to my blog.

37 thoughts on ““You are never going to get a second chance to make a first impression”

  • April 17, 2020 at 3:35 pm
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    Wow, this is really nice and inspiring. Good job dear🥰

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    • April 17, 2020 at 3:48 pm
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      Thank you so much 💓 💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 4:02 pm
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    This one entered my chest tho😩😂😂
    Maybe this is why the man of my dreams hasn’t noticed me😭 But I hate shopping. I hate so much. So I still keep clothes of since SS1 that fits or the ones my sister tosses to me when she pities me. I promise to buy more clothes and less Maryland from now on😩

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    • April 17, 2020 at 4:04 pm
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      Less Maryland? Pls don’t do that 😭😂

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      • April 17, 2020 at 4:08 pm
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        😂😂😂😂😂

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    • April 17, 2020 at 4:05 pm
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      Less Maryland? Pls don’t do that 😭

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    • April 17, 2020 at 4:07 pm
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      Less Maryland 😂😂😂😂 God will hill you

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  • April 17, 2020 at 4:03 pm
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    I’m guilty of many things here. I don’t know any other colors from deep blue, grey, white, black, dazzall. And I don’t pay attention to what I wear most of the time. Everytime it’s just “wear something and cover your nakedness bro” 😂. So far I meet the first reason for wearing clothes, everything else doesn’t count.

    I’ll try to change

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    • April 17, 2020 at 4:08 pm
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      😂😂😂you have acknowledged it, Now go and sin no more 😂

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    • April 17, 2020 at 4:57 pm
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      Thanks💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 4:58 pm
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    Reading this on cruise and am like wow you are being inspired to work on your appearance, then the part of “smell like flowers”, my only type of flower i love to smell is marijuana. Nice piece of work here. 🙂

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:07 pm
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      Fagbo geng😂, Thank you so much 💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:00 pm
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    Why do I feel so attacked? 😂
    This was funny and engaging, we live to see it

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:07 pm
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      Thanks Gigi😂

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:03 pm
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    I’m also guilty of this, looking like a 4 but expecting to be approached by an 8. Thanks for the wake up call sis 😂

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:08 pm
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      Anytime my dear Annie😘

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:04 pm
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    Funny as always. Your savagery knows no bounds and I love it.

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:08 pm
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      Thank you!

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:07 pm
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    Who’s this girl? 😂 I enjoyed this, even though you dragged boys, lol.

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:09 pm
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      😂😂😂 I apologize (or not).

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:15 pm
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    Fogosake how does someone smell like fuf and onions… I give up on u Esther

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:20 pm
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      Ahhh 😂😂😂 even the ones that smell like iru and palmoil, My G you never jam 😂😂😂

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  • April 17, 2020 at 5:55 pm
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    Smelling like fufu and onions 😂😂wow…… like always I enjoyed reading this ooo, I can relate to it baje but as a fashion designer appearance is something I don’t joke with 😌 and smiling is my second name 😋😋…..thanks babe, please don’t let us always wait till Friday na Abeg

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    • April 17, 2020 at 6:00 pm
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      😂😂😂😂I will try, quarantine content creation is not easy o, Thank you so much baby girl 💓💓💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 6:11 pm
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    Beautiful piece .. number 4 tho , funny but very very important. More emphasis on that pls

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    • April 17, 2020 at 6:28 pm
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      Yes very very important. I’m totally obsessed with smelling good, maybe this article will help someone. Thank you so much 💓 💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 6:12 pm
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    I’ve learnt few things on here already. Thank you

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    • April 17, 2020 at 5:13 pm
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      You’re welcome Tosin!💓

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  • April 17, 2020 at 7:13 pm
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    You’ve done it again.
    Always interesting to read from you.
    Welldone girl.x

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    • April 18, 2020 at 3:09 am
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      Thank you baby girl 💓

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  • April 18, 2020 at 4:20 pm
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    Heeeeeeeiiiii Esther ooo😂
    I want to start dressing up girly and all but it feels like I will be cheating on my usual tees et trousers.

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    • April 18, 2020 at 5:41 pm
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      😂😂😂😂do you baby girl 💓

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  • April 18, 2020 at 6:14 pm
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    Boo! I love your content!!! They are so relatable
    Your page is underrated tbh.

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    • April 18, 2020 at 6:15 pm
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      Awwww thank you so much 💓 💓😘

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  • April 18, 2020 at 8:14 pm
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    Another beautiful read👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾 you really have a way with words.

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    • April 19, 2020 at 4:54 am
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      Thank you so much baby girl 💓💓💓

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