Girl: Hey mountain man, spirit, whatever you are, I need to get through. You are in my way so disappear….. Please?

Mountain: Girlll, what is your black behind up to? I could send some rocks to crush you, but I won’t.

Hello everyone and welcome to another blog post. Today I am channeling my inner Tony Elumelu and I’m about to bring you a hot cup of motivation tea (God knows we all need it). My lazy (and occasionally discouraged) self might not be best to talk about motivation but I think it’s better this way, you’ll know this is not some “aspire to conspire to inspire to perspire” talk or “I made my first million at age 2” story from your regular $10,000 Valentino suit wearing, imported accent speaking, fresh shaven motivational speaker.

Okay let’s go back to the top of this page and reread the conversation between the mountain and the girl. It’s obviously an analogy (mountains don’t speak, duhh) and I’m going to explain it. The mountain signifies challenges, oppositions, problems and unexplained events that are in between you and the actualisation of your goals; the girl on the other hand represents the regular human, you, me, anybody with dreams and goals. One thing to take away from this conversation between the mountain and girl is that the girl seemed unsure of herself, she even tried to “beg” her way out. Challenges are not something you pet and sing lullabies to; You attack! You fight! You don’t sit there begging for the problems to disappear, because they won’t. Only the strong in spirit and brave at heart will survive. Find a way out or be crushed to powder by a bad situation.

Imagine if the girl took a stance like an earth-bender (any avatar fans here?) and threatened to flatten the mountain even though it was obvious that she couldn’t, it would have sent a message to the mountain that she is not someone to be messed with. I have heard countless times from people around me that I joke about everything. If something bad happens the first thing I say is “So what’s the plan? What’s the way forward?” It comes across as me being overconfident or nonchalant when in reality I’m cooking up several scenarios in my mind on how more things could go wrong and hiding how close I am to having a panic attack.

Wallowing in self pity has never accomplished anything, trust me. My dreams are so big that you can call me Joseph the dreamer (really?). Your present situation does not determine your outcome. Take me for instance, I’ve always wanted to travel the world, I can’t do that now unless there’s an airline selling an 84 kobo plane ticket. Does that mean I will never travel? (If you said yes, God will destroy you). I put off starting a blog for about five years because I thought I wasn’t good enough and nobody will read it. This year, I did, and you’re here reading.

Esther you don’t understand, I’ve tried everything, I’m tired, nothing is working” and I say to you, Take a deep breath, you can do that, can’t you? It means you are alive and where there is Life, there is Hope. I remember when someone used to say this to me and I would swell and my face would contort like something from a Japanese anime. It helps though, reorienting your mind is the first step to banishing feelings of despair.

Words of affirmation also helps. Here are some I use:

– I am strong.

– I control my emotions, my emotions don’t control me.

– Today is another step in the direction of achieving my goals.

– I am enough. I have a sound mind.

– I feel …(insert whatever bad thing you’re feeling) but I am….(insert the opposite).

This whole stay-home situation isn’t helping with motivation, but you can do it, keep your head above the water, I believe in you.

Girl: Mountain! Be thou removed and cast into the sea!

Mountain: Sis, no offense but this is not some Bible story. You want to pass through or not? Come! I’ll grant you safe passage.

Love & Light.

Leave a comment, How do you deal with discouragement? What do you do when you don’t feel motivated?

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My name is Esther, Queen Esther. I am a Nigerian psychologist navigating blindly through this tornado called life. The words best used to describe me are witty, pretty, chubby and bubbly. Welcome to my blog.